Knowing who to trust

I remember my mother and grandmother singing around the house: ‘Trust and obey for there’s no other way to be happy in Jesus, than to trust and obey.’ I never forgot it, but I also never stopped long enough to really take in what they were singing. When they went out of my life, I still remembered the song, but I never got anyone to show me what to do with this thing that had an impression on me.

I let the world develop my understanding of trust and, wow, how wrong that was.

Because I hadn’t been taught to trust with all my heart, I was left to determine trust in my head. I didn’t see the logic in trusting in the Big Fella. I couldn’t see, touch and hear him so how could I possibly put all my trust in him? I wasn’t even sure he was for real for a lot of my early life.

If you’re still not sure that God’s for real, that’s OK, don’t hit the stop button, just hit ‘pause’ and take a breather. You can still make progress on the trust issue once you’ve gone through the process in your head and got the common sense of this chapter. This is a big area for men to deal with.

To learn to trust without the Big Fella, you have to think about who are the most trusting and trusted blokes in your life. It’s in your good interests to go and chat to them, if they’re still around, and ask them about trust. This can help you grow in trust.

Ultimately you’re going to find that the deep, deep part of trust comes from the Creator of the universe who put the ‘trust chip’ into the core of you. That core only comes alive when you let go of control and say to the Big Fella: well, who are you, where are you, and can I trust you?

If I’d let the Big Fella teach me to trust him first and foremost, before I assessed the situations I encountered regarding trust, I would have had more sleep at night and less worry-nights. I wouldn’t have got caught up in people’s iffy agendas.