The anger problem

Anger makes you a lonely person. By being angry you make a boundary around yourself. A no-go zone. ‘Don’t get too close! He’s had a bad one last night! He’s in a bad mood.’ When you’re angry, you’re a pain in the neck to work with. It affects your friends. You’re not nice to be with.

In our busy day-to-day lives we don’t get too much ‘me time’ to just let off steam without being challenged. So, when we’re alone in the car and we think nobody knows us, do we let it out in a little road rage? Or do we get on the phone under a false name when no-one is around and abuse someone? Fellas, these are not happy ways to let out our anger, and they can come back to bite us, big-time. 

What about our families? How can your woman be all sexy and beautiful if you come home angry? If you want love and romance and intimacy, do you really think the joy and beauty of that is going to be tagged onto anger? Anger doesn’t get anywhere near passion.

Do your children walk around on tenterhooks because Dad’s angry and they don’t know why? It’s probably nothing to do with the child, it’s just because Dad has a crappy job or he’s been let down or he’s got no money. Children can be traumatised by a father or mother’s anger – not knowing what to say or when to say it.

If you’re a young dad, do you realise that your children will be watching and learning everything from you? 

Of course we all want our children to take the good points from us, but sadly they can also take up the not-so-good things about us, such as anger. As we age, we don’t enjoy seeing our bad points in any of our children.

Anger in our society is not nice. It’s like battlefields, it’s like tsunamis, it’s like rough dirty sea. Someone usually cops it. 

Those who we love and are closest to us are the ones that cop it most because it’s probably the easiest way to get rid of it.

We’ve gotta deal with this one fellas. We’ve gotta go hard at it.