Champion love stories. We were that couple who were crazy, passionately, head-over-heels in love. With the birth of our first child, all of a sudden I didn’t really know who I was. My name, hormones, body, job and lifestyle had all changed dramatically. Our relationship wasn’t exciting dates and holidays anymore but sleep deprivation and boring chores. It was a period of grinding gears, quarrels, confusion and conflict. I went from being independent, capable and accomplished in my professional life, to being at home all day with a baby, doing jobs that quickly came undone. When Toby would leave for work in the morning I felt jealous that he got to go out and ‘have a life’.